75 ANSWERS TO YOUR BIGGEST PARENTING QUESTIONS
1. How should I deal with my child being a bully? It is important to realize that nearly one in ten children are victimized by bullies and that bullying is a very serious problem that should not be taken lightly. Start by determining how your child is bullying others. The most common type of bullying is physical; punching‚ pushing‚ kicking‚ etc. However‚ a child may be teasing other children‚ calling them names or otherwise verbally assaulting them. Once you have determined the type of bullying‚ you need to make it completely clear to your child that the behavior is unacceptable. Then‚ you need to find out the reason that your child has become a bully. Talking to your child may lead to him or her giving you an explanation‚ however in many cases it is a good idea to involve a professional counselor who is specially trained to work with bullying children.
2. What should I do when another child bully's mine? So many parents tell their children to ignore bullies‚ and to look the other way rather than react. However‚ it is never advisable to let bullying go‚ because it will never just "go away". In some cases‚ it may not even be apparent to you that your child is being bullied because bullied children are often afraid to tell an adult what is happening. When you suspect that bullying is an issue‚ talk to your child and school officials. Getting the teachers and school administrators involved will make them aware of the problem and you can work together to find a solution.
3. How can I talk openly with my child about death? The first thing to remember is that death is a part of life‚ and that everyone will experience loss and grief at some time. Generally‚ children who are of school age will have an understanding that death is permanent‚ however pre-schoolers and younger children may not quite get that their loved one will never come back. You must always be honest and open when discussing death‚ and more than anything else you need to make sure that your child understands that he or she should and can talk to you or another trusted adult about their feelings at any time.
4. How do I tell my child that someone has died? The most important rule of thumb is to BE HONEST. Never tell your child that their loved one is sleeping - or they will expect him or her to wake up. And‚ never tell your child that their loved one is "taking a trip or journey" because they will await a return. Unless you are honest and open‚ there is most likely going to be a delay between your child learning about the death and the onset of the grieving process.